My grandfather moved away from South Bend, Indiana to a retirement community an hour from Salem, Oregon sometime in his eighties so that he could die. It wasn’t necessarily that he needed to uproot himself to die for himself, far from the place where he worked all of his life and raised a family. It was that Salem was where his younger daughter and her physician husband lived. The theory was that the physician husband would be best capable to take care of my grandmother, once my grandfather was unable to take care of her.
It should be noted, that there wasn’t anything acutely wrong with my grandmother, although she was maybe a bit on the frail side and had a stent in her heart from a moderate heart attack some years prior or that she had broken her knee cap having tripped outside the Kroger. I think it had more to do with the societal norms and gender roles of those who were born in the 1910s and had survived both the Great Depression and World War II. Wives were supposed to be taken
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